mem, sim, systemc: Reorganize Port and co.s bind, unbind slightly.

mem, sim, systemc: Reorganize Port and co.s bind, unbind slightly.

The base Port class can keep track of its peer, and also whether it's
connected. This is partially delegated away from the port subclasses
which still keep track of a cast version of their peer pointer for
their own conveneince, so that it can be used by generic code. Even
with the Port mechanism's new flexibility, each port still has
exactly one peer and is either connected or not based on whether there
is a peer currently.

Change-Id: Id3228617dd1604d196814254a1aadeac5ade7cde
Reviewed-on: https://gem5-review.googlesource.com/c/public/gem5/+/20232
Tested-by: kokoro <noreply+kokoro@google.com>
Reviewed-by: Nikos Nikoleris <nikos.nikoleris@arm.com>
Reviewed-by: Andreas Sandberg <andreas.sandberg@arm.com>
Maintainer: Gabe Black <gabeblack@google.com>