mem: Make tXAW enforcement less conservative and per rank

mem: Make tXAW enforcement less conservative and per rank

This patch changes the tXAW constraint so that it is enforced per rank
rather than globally for all ranks in the channel. It also avoids
using the bank freeAt to enforce the activation limit, as doing so
also precludes performing any column or row command to the
DRAM. Instead the patch introduces a new variable actAllowedAt for the
banks and use this to track when a potential activation can occur.