mem: Separate waiting for the bus and waiting for a peer

mem: Separate waiting for the bus and waiting for a peer

This patch splits the retryList into a list of ports that are waiting
for the bus itself to become available, and a map that tracks the
ports where forwarding failed due to a peer not accepting the
packet. Thus, when a retry reaches the bus, it can be sent to the
appropriate port that initiated that transaction.

As a consequence of this patch, only ports that are really ready to go
will get a retry, thus reducing the amount of redundant failed
attempts. This patch also makes it easier to reason about the order of
servicing requests as the ports waiting for the bus are now clearly
FIFO and much easier to change if desired.