mem: Avoid DRAM write queue iteration for merging and read lookup

mem: Avoid DRAM write queue iteration for merging and read lookup

This patch adds a simple lookup structure to avoid iterating over the
write queue to find read matches, and for the merging of write
bursts. Instead of relying on iteration we simply store a set of
currently-buffered write-burst addresses and compare against
these. For the reads we still perform the iteration if we have a
match. For the writes, we rely entirely on the set. Note that there
are corner-cases where sub-bursts would actually not be mergeable
without a read-modify-write. We ignore these cases and opt for speed.