eventq: Clean up some flags

eventq: Clean up some flags
- Make the initialized flag always available, not just in debug mode.
- Make the Initialized flag actually use several bits so it is very
unlikely that something that's uninitialized accidentally looks
initialized.
- Add an initialized() function that tells you if the current event is
indeed  initialized.
- Clear the flags on delete so it can't be accidentally thought of as
initialized.
- Fix getFlags assert statement.  "How did this ever work?"