Replace options listener infrastructure (#4764)

Replace options listener infrastructure (#4764)

This replaces the old options listener infrastructure with the OptionsManager introduced in cb8d041.

It eliminates a "beforeSearchListener", which was a custom way of some options throwing a modal exception if they were set after initialization. Now all options are consistent: no option can be set after initialization.

It also moves managed ostream objects to the OptionsManager.

@mpreiner The next step will be to remove the "notifies" field from the Options build system and then proceed with cleaning src/options/.